It is in the nature of a few less evolved beings to gain confidence by belittling, insulting, or invalidating another. It's a character flaw within them that cannot be corrected by anything that you say or do so, your best bet is to disassociate yourself from that person altogether and pursue a healthier relationship elsewhere.
Don't waste time trying to change the person or make them understand your point of view, just make a clean break from them altogether so they can, hopefully, be forced into the self-evaluation that they so desperately need to undertake.
In other words, there is no honor in being someone's plaything. You have to make the decision to believe that you are worthy of better than a relationship where a person's only aim is to use you to feel good about themselves.
Life is too short and the population too big to accept that you aren't worthy of more than a modicum of respect.
Don't be the doormat that people are content to walk on, there are plenty enough people ready to fulfill that role already—you don't need to add to that number. Instead, be the confident, potential-laden, person that you were born to be and make your friendship a privilege not an entitlement.
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Monday, November 15, 2010
Day 15: Sometimes You Just Have to "Do You"...
You can't please everybody. Stop trying...it's useless.
The only person you can take full responsibility for is yourself and, if you spend the better part of your existence trying to gauge the approval of others, your life will be miserable.
Most people aren't looking to praise your efforts. It's human nature to be overly critical and objective—think about it—everywhere you turn, there is judgment.
The eyes of your church congregation are gauging how "christian" you are, your friends are questioning the decisions you make in regards to your dress, your career, your parenting, and your money, and society expects you to be a law-abiding citizen with the potential to offer a great deal to their world.
Just living is a challenge because nothing comes without criticism or expectation.
That said, the best you can do is be the best version of yourself—every. single. day.
Don't worry about what any one has to say, don't continually alter your actions so that they're consistent with what others feel they should be, and don't waste time trying to be someone that you're not—that's an injustice to you and the one beautiful life God has granted.
Do the things that make you feel good and make you the most effective person for those who are the most important parts of your life—period. As for every one else clawing at you and telling you who you should be, well, tell them your dance card is full, and advise them to take a number.
The only person you can take full responsibility for is yourself and, if you spend the better part of your existence trying to gauge the approval of others, your life will be miserable.
Most people aren't looking to praise your efforts. It's human nature to be overly critical and objective—think about it—everywhere you turn, there is judgment.
The eyes of your church congregation are gauging how "christian" you are, your friends are questioning the decisions you make in regards to your dress, your career, your parenting, and your money, and society expects you to be a law-abiding citizen with the potential to offer a great deal to their world.
Just living is a challenge because nothing comes without criticism or expectation.
That said, the best you can do is be the best version of yourself—every. single. day.
Don't worry about what any one has to say, don't continually alter your actions so that they're consistent with what others feel they should be, and don't waste time trying to be someone that you're not—that's an injustice to you and the one beautiful life God has granted.
Do the things that make you feel good and make you the most effective person for those who are the most important parts of your life—period. As for every one else clawing at you and telling you who you should be, well, tell them your dance card is full, and advise them to take a number.
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Day 14: Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say...
It has always been my philosophy to be honest with myself about the point I'm trying to make. Emotions are too easy to get caught up in, and words become like daggers with poisoned tips for you to spew out, rapid fire, until you can emerge victorious—albeit stained with the blood and guts of the person you've disemboweled.
The analogy may seem vivid and violent, but it illustrates just how damaging words can be.
With that said, it's always important to approach, potentially, volatile situations with a plan. Ask yourself where your head is before you engage in an emotional debate with someone you care about. If you know you are angry, hurt, or overly sensitive, perhaps it's best to table the discussion for a later time—when you can be more rational.
However, if you are caught up in the heat of the moment, and the tussle gets harsh enough that the vitriol begins to well-up within you, and make it's way to the tip of your tongue, stop and ask yourself what it is you wish to say—is your ultimate goal to hurt or to educate?
If your aim is to hurt, then it doesn't need to be said. Spite for spite's sake is useless and it causes nothing but more pain in the long run.
If the aim is to educate the individual about your needs, your expectations, and your qualms, then that's productive. That's a starting point for the healing process and a step towards personal growth for you because you are learning how to communicate your emotions in a more mature manner.
Whatever you do, take care not to place yourself in a situation that you'll be sorry for later and, always remember, words linger longer than circumstances. No matter how your issues get resolved, a person never forgets the way something you said made them feel—don't plant the seeds of negativity that could later spring up and overwhelm you or your relationship.
Neither of you may be able to recover.
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Amazon Offering Pedophile Book for Public Consumption—Seriously
As much as I consider myself a proponent of free speech and non-censorship, I do come across things that make my blood boil from time-to-time—particularly as the mother of two young children.
Amazon.com is offering the following book for public consumption and, honestly, I see absolutely no merit in them doing so:
Seriously, this is something that needs to be sold?
Even more disturbing is the product's description:
There are no words for such filth and, honestly, until Amazon removes this offensive product from its offerings, I have little need to shop, refer, or even look at their site.
Just unbelievable...and don't even get me started on the complete ignoramus who actually wrote this "book".
Amazon.com is offering the following book for public consumption and, honestly, I see absolutely no merit in them doing so:
Even more disturbing is the product's description:
Huh? What?!? So, let me get this straight, this book is meant to make the victims of these animals more amenable to whatever is done to them so that if/when they get caught, the consequences won't be as bad?!?Product Description
This is my attempt to make pedophile situations safer for those juveniles that find themselves involved in them, by establishing certain rules for these adults to follow. I hope to achieve this by appealing to the better nature of pedosexuals, with hope that their doing so will result in less hatred and perhaps liter sentences should they ever be caught.
There are no words for such filth and, honestly, until Amazon removes this offensive product from its offerings, I have little need to shop, refer, or even look at their site.
Just unbelievable...and don't even get me started on the complete ignoramus who actually wrote this "book".
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