You Are The Enemy

Excuses are the enemy of progress. If I had a nickel for every excuse I tried to make when I'm simply not feeling my workout on a particular day, I'd be driving a Bentley by now.

Your biggest obstacle is always going to be yourself. Don't listen to others, don't worry about what they think, and stop making the decision to always place yourself and your health second. If you can do that, success is going to be a lot easier to attain.

Regret vs. Discipline: A Pin for Motivation

I found this pin on one of my favorite sites, Pinterest, and it rings very true for me where adhering to my goals is concerned.

Source: Uploaded by user via Kimberley on Pinterest

VIDEO OF THE WEEK: Proof That Not Everyone Should Wear High Heels

This young lady may need to stick with flats for a little while longer:


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Ay yi yi.

What NOT To Do With Your Exercise Ball

Okay, time for a mini-break from the serious conversation. Saw this video and just had to share:


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Ouch is all I have to say about that one.

Day 20: What's The Common Denominator?...

There are often situations where you feel like you are being picked on. You don't necessarily understand or know why people are doing it, but you know they are and you don't like it very much. The usual response to such a feeling is to turn tail and run—as far away as possible.

But, what happens when you find yourself in a similar situation again...and again...and again? At what point do you stop looking for the external factors in exchange for turning your sights internally?

None of us are destined to be perfect, but it is important to recognize the serial imperfections that you place upon the doorstep of the world. In other words, are you arrogant? Unapproachable? Unyielding when it comes to the actions or opinions of others? Are you...awkward?

Believe it or not, it all matters, and it is a strong possibility that your inability yo remain settled in multiple situations is less about the people you're complaining about, than it is about you.

You are the common denominator in every situation...just make sure you're not the problem.

Day 14: Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say...

Believe it or not, that's a hard concept for some people to grasp. They don't get the difference between talking to somebody and talking at them—trust me, the two are not the same.

It has always been my philosophy to be honest with myself about the point I'm trying to make. Emotions are too easy to get caught up in, and words become like daggers with poisoned tips for you to spew out, rapid fire, until you can emerge victorious—albeit stained with the blood and guts of the person you've disemboweled.

The analogy may seem vivid and violent, but it illustrates just how damaging words can be.

With that said, it's always important to approach, potentially, volatile situations with a plan. Ask yourself where your head is before you engage in an emotional debate with someone you care about. If you know you are angry, hurt, or overly sensitive, perhaps it's best to table the discussion for a later time—when you can be more rational.

However, if you are caught up in the heat of the moment, and the tussle gets harsh enough that the vitriol begins to well-up within you, and make it's way to the tip of your tongue, stop and ask yourself what it is you wish to say—is your ultimate goal to hurt or to educate?

If your aim is to hurt, then it doesn't need to be said. Spite for spite's sake is useless and it causes nothing but more pain in the long run. 

If the aim is to educate the individual about your needs, your expectations, and your qualms, then that's productive. That's a starting point for the healing process and a step towards personal growth for you because you are learning how to communicate your emotions in a more mature manner.

Whatever you do, take care not to place yourself in a situation that you'll be sorry for later and, always remember, words linger longer than circumstances. No matter how your issues get resolved, a person never forgets the way something you said made them feel—don't plant the seeds of negativity that could later spring up and overwhelm you or your relationship.

Neither of you may be able to recover.