You Are The Only One You Will Never Lose

"You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose."—Jo Coudert

Most of us spend our time cultivating and growing into individuals who can eventually be a good match for someone else, yet we never truly understand or try to do what's necessary to be acceptable to ourselves. 

It's important to remember that you are your own worst enemy, and as such you know your weaknesses as well as your strengths. With that knowledge you can either plant the positive seeds of love, which can turn into a greater sense of purpose for both who you are and what you are becoming, or you can nourish the negative seeds that have the capacity to lead you down the long, hard path of self-doubt and internal turmoil.

None of us needs to be useless to another, misery can be it's own company, however, imagine how much less inviting your world would truly be if that inescapable force of unhappiness was you.

We're All Entitled To A Bad Day

Life can be a piece of work and, despite your best intention, there will come a day when you'll wake up and say, " I just can't do it. I'd rather stay in my bed, with the shades drawn, than face another day".

It's inevitable and it's happened to most of us at some point in our lives.

The trick when it happens is determining how to contain the miserable feeling of that day to just that—one day—because you don't want the inconvenience of one bad day to become the basis for having one lousy year.

That's never good.

However, how do you stop that train? I mean, let's face it, it's not easy to keep emotions from spiraling out of control and life has a way of kicking you in the teeth once you're firmly in the mud.

Sometimes it just seems easier to wallow and live inside the pain rather than do anything about it.

Cut all ties and become a loner.

If you shut yourself off from the people, and the connections they offer, you all but guarantee an existence devoid of the pain, disappointment, and excuses they'll be forced to give you—if/when they let you down.

For some, that justifies a life lived without friends, loves, or purpose.

However, the inability to open yourself up to said pain also negates the ability to accept the positives it has to offer—love, companionship, and happiness, to name a few.

You have to decide for yourself if your life is for living or for just being lived—trust there is a difference—and, if you decide it's the latter, you get out of bed, walk out the door, and tell the world to take its best shot.

In my opinion, the risk is worth the reward.





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