Thursday, September 1, 2011

Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained

As we get older, we start to over-analyze the choices we've made. Perhaps we feel that one decision, here or there, would have altered the trajectory of our life for the better. Or, maybe we are just feeling sorry for ourselves because the life of this or that person turned out better than our own—jealousy can prompt self-reflection very quickly.

Well, here's what you have to do in those moments: stop being so hard on yourself. You cannot change the past and the only thing dwelling on it will do is make the steps you try to make in the future that much harder to take.

This path you are on is the one you are supposed to be on—even if it seems like a rather difficult one at present—and when you reach the end of your journey, you can expect one of two things to happen: you will either 1) feel grateful for the experience and reposition your life based on what you've come to learn, or you'll 2) let self-doubt and self-pity take over, learn nothing, and remain stuck right where you are.

The roads we travel have many directions, it's up to you to choose the right one.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Oh boy, this was written for me. I have always beaten up on myself. I'm my harshest critic and the last one to dole out any grace to myself. Jeff gently tries to curb this habit of mine. He can see the look in my face when i'm internally giving myself a lashing. It's a hard habit to break, but a self-destructive one that can be so dangerous. This is a good word Kim!